Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend. Non-being is the greatest joy. Lao Tzu
Archive for March 2011
When most people think of the “To Do List” they think, “Ugh” and then sigh. For most people, the “To Do List” is like a heavy weight on their shoulders that they can’t seem to get rid of… a never ending load that continues to get bigger and bigger as the day progresses. There always seems to be more and more to do!
Every time you think of something, you write it down and by the end of the day… the list has grown out of control! There’s even more you need to do now than when you started.
In order to get control of your out of control “To Do List,” it’s important to get the list down to a manageable and realistic number per day so you can actually get things done in a productive manner. This will help with reducing anxiety and overwhelm.
The following are Steps to Help You Get Control of Your Out of Control To Do List
The true value of a human being is determined primarily by the measure and the sense in which he has attained liberation from the self.
I’m often in awe of time. It passes like a rocket and before we know it, we’re somebody else, entirely new – for the most part.
I woke up one morning a few weeks ago to find a song in my head from my childhood. This isn’t rare. I’m used to waking up to remembered music that I always assume must have been the soundtrack to a dream I may or may not recollect. As I stepped outside to take in the day, I took notice of the lyrics: “Learning to love yourself – it is the greatest love of all.” I’d sung those lyrics a thousand times at talent shows and around the house from the moment I realized I had a voice, but their profundity hit me that morning as the greatest lesson that I’ve been trying to assimilate into my life – that self-love will get me everywhere. Undoubtedly, my hardest lesson this life’s journey is to hone in on and increase love and validation for myself from myself .
“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” –Albert Einstein
Sit with a beautiful woman for an hour, and it feels like a second; sit on a hot stove for a second, and it feels like an hour. That’s relativity.
I woke up today gripped by the immense suffering that is happening in our world. Sometimes I am struck with how little I am doing to help and, at other times, aware that in my very small way, I am doing what I can. In glancing through my emails, I ran across one from my friend Lea Walters mentioning that March is Einstein’s birth month. His words so touched my heart – thank you Lea.
“Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to a divine purpose. From the standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know…that we are here for the sake of others…for the countless unknown souls with whose fate we are connected by a bond of sympathy. Many times a day, I realize how much my outer and inner life is built upon the labors of people, both living and dead, and how earnestly I must exert myself in order to give in return as much as I have received.” Albert Einstein
Walking along the marsh with my friend Robert last month, we paused to let a snake pass by. As we were standing there together, watching two feet of lovely green reptile wriggle its way into the tall grass, Robert turned and pretty much out of nowhere said, “Honestly, I can’t see why you’re spending your time on this aging thing.“
I squinted up at him. He’s got ice blue eyes that make women take a second look and then a third. “I just don’t think aging is interesting for people like us.”
What kind of people are people like us, I wondered. I once saw a photo when he was in his thirties and drop dead gorgeous with a head of curly dark hair. Maybe he means beautiful people but I don’t think I would make the cut. He must mean something else. “I’ll be turning 65 in two months,” he said, “and I’m not really different than I was in my 30’s. I’m the same weight I’ve always been …”.
The snake disappeared behind a flat rock, and we resumed our walk with me still wondering about why I wouldn’t qualify to be interested in the aging thing.
I managed to keep quiet long enough to hear Robert out. “I’m still delving into the meaning of life,” he said quietly. And he told me how, at 21, just settled into his first job in London, he’d walk to Trafalgar Square on his lunch hour to sit and look for moments of beauty. He’d been reading Stendhal and had plunged into a deep love affair with life. “For me, life is as great an adventure now as it was then,” he said. “I’m still searching the world for moments of beauty. Age has nothing to do with it.” He grinned, flashing those exotic eyes, “Nothing at all.”
When my daughter was six, there was a fire in our apartment. We lost most of our possessions (disastrous) and our cat was killed (tragic). A few days later, my radiant, soulful child drew a picture. Around the edge were a bunch of letters with circles around them, and at her feet were all of these dark, stick-like things. The face was in mirror image (as most kids do at that age), and the eyes showed their two different shades of brown. And rolling down the cheek was one long, lonely teardrop. I suddenly realized the stick-like things were symbols of our burned up possession, but I had to ask here what the letters meant. She told me they stood for each of the pets we had lost over the years, including our recently dead Monster-Cat. It was a heartfelt rendering of a series of losses, of bereavement felt so deeply ……….. real, visceral, so honest. Read more »
Part 2 of a 3 part series: Conquering Creativity Challenges
In my last article I revealed the 4 secrets to finding your creativity – the first stage of three in actualizing your creative process. Creative thought is the essence of every woman.
Every woman has the capacity or dare I say the responsibility to share her creativity. But what happens when there are barriers?
Here are the 4 secrets to Conquering Creativity Challenges:
Secret #1: Pledge to Self. Creative, inspiring women practice the skill of self-focus. Women are overcoming societal expectations in order to give high priority to self.
Self-focus does not mean a woman is abdicating her true nature of nurturer. Rather, she is nurturing her soul and creative gifts. Your success doesn’t mean someone else’s loss.